A Marriage of Two Different Cultures: Tips for Planning a Fusion Wedding
1. Communicate your needs early on to your family and your planner.
2. Figure out what’s important to you as a couple.
3. Maintain perspective throughout the planning process.
Any opposition they show is out of fear that their child won't be happy.” To ease the apprehension and foster positive discussion, try to:
Wanted: One good officiant
While you may have always dreamed of being married by your family minister, that may not be possible if your fiancé is of a different faith. Should your clergy member decline, try to find an alternate to take his place, or choose a neutral officiant who specializes in mixed ceremonies.
“Personal recommendations and word-of-mouth referrals are best when this type of problem arises,” says a certain Rev, who suggests having an extensive talk with the prospective officiant on the phone first. “During the conversation, find out things like how many services they have performed and if they have any experience with your specific situation. If you like what they have to say, and feel confident that they will be able to provide the type of ceremony you need, go ahead and arrange a meeting with them.”
Often considered one of the most flexible of the clergy, an interfaith minister can blend whatever religions you specify during the ceremony (mentioning God or other deities), or can keep the service religiously neutral. A Unitarian Universalist minister performs a nondenominational service without specific theological significance. If you want to get away from religious references altogether, opt for a judge or a civil servant who will provide a secular ceremony — usually in the person's chambers. Another nonreligious option worth considering is having an Ethical Culture Society leader perform your wedding. Known for their warm, humanistic approach, these officiants focus on a couple's values and sentiments rather than prayer and theistic references.
If you have had a different religion wedding, kindly share with us your experiences or if you have attended such a wedding do share with us as well.
as usual thank you for reading. Do visit our social media pages for more this month on Wedding Planning.
1. Communicate your needs early on to your family and your planner.
2. Figure out what’s important to you as a couple.
3. Maintain perspective throughout the planning process.
Any opposition they show is out of fear that their child won't be happy.” To ease the apprehension and foster positive discussion, try to:
- Find common ground
- Present a united front
- Avoid loaded language
- Speak honestly
Wanted: One good officiant
While you may have always dreamed of being married by your family minister, that may not be possible if your fiancé is of a different faith. Should your clergy member decline, try to find an alternate to take his place, or choose a neutral officiant who specializes in mixed ceremonies.
“Personal recommendations and word-of-mouth referrals are best when this type of problem arises,” says a certain Rev, who suggests having an extensive talk with the prospective officiant on the phone first. “During the conversation, find out things like how many services they have performed and if they have any experience with your specific situation. If you like what they have to say, and feel confident that they will be able to provide the type of ceremony you need, go ahead and arrange a meeting with them.”
Often considered one of the most flexible of the clergy, an interfaith minister can blend whatever religions you specify during the ceremony (mentioning God or other deities), or can keep the service religiously neutral. A Unitarian Universalist minister performs a nondenominational service without specific theological significance. If you want to get away from religious references altogether, opt for a judge or a civil servant who will provide a secular ceremony — usually in the person's chambers. Another nonreligious option worth considering is having an Ethical Culture Society leader perform your wedding. Known for their warm, humanistic approach, these officiants focus on a couple's values and sentiments rather than prayer and theistic references.
If you have had a different religion wedding, kindly share with us your experiences or if you have attended such a wedding do share with us as well.
as usual thank you for reading. Do visit our social media pages for more this month on Wedding Planning.
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